I was really naive about mom life before having Savvy. Society gives us this picture of what things are supposed to look like and when things don’t go that way it can really screw you up and make you feel like a failure. Society: Moms that have natural births are warriors! You are so strong! You go girl! My brain: You suuuuck! You had to have a c-section. Man, you are weak. Society: Fit moms rock! Workout so you can get that #snapback! Yasss! My brain: I birthed an almost 9 pound baby and I didn’t lose a single pound until a month later. My body sucks! I guess this is just my flabby body now. It gave me a baby so I should appreciate it even though I’m uncomfortable.
Society: Breast is best! Breastfeeding is so natural and beautiful! You need a deep freezer full of milk. My brain: OMG! Why does this hurt so much?! I must not be doing this right. My body really sucks. I can barely get 2oz of milk when I pump much less have a freezer full. Gosh, I suck at this mom thing. It took me months to accept my reality and then a few more to learn to appreciate it. I had to let go of the expectations and view points of others and create my own definition of success — based on my own experiences and my given reality. If motherhood hasn’t dealt you a “typical” hand, it does not make you any less amazing of a mother. Make your own rules. Set your own standards. Do your thing because no one else knows exactly what it’s like to be in your shoes. 💕